Transgender Teen Survival Guide

Asked by Anonymous

Lee says:

Hmm. Our binding FAQ has general info on when not to wear a binder, and we tend to advise not wearing it when you’re doing vigorous activity that could cause you to breathe heavily, and sex can sometimes be kind of a workout since your heart rate goes up and your breathing gets faster. 

But I’ll be honest, I’ve probably definitely had sex with a binder on a few times although I try not to. I’d say that if you’re old enough to have sex, then you’re old enough to decide the level of risk you’re comfortable taking in binding.

If you decide not to bind, you could try wearing a loose shirt and a sports bra or a tank top and a sports bra. A skin-toned tank top or cami might help if you want something that looks a bit more natural than a t-shirt, but it’s all up to you. 

And of course turning off the lights and asking your partner to not touch your chest may also be helpful. If you can go under the blankets or under a sheet, that might also help hide your chest.

if you do wear a binder during sex, make sure you’re communicating with your partner to make sure you’re going to be safe. Watch out for any pain, breathing difficulties, or really anything that you’d normally be careful for when binding.

More info on transmasc masturbation and sex is here! 

Followers say:

 hush-hush-little-heart said: Hi! (talking from experience) Personally I think it also depends on the type of sex. If it’s going to be kinda slow and stuff, maybe you’re not going to move a lot/use difficult positions, so i think it may be not too dangerous. On the other hand, if you’re going to be the one on top, or you’re having rougher sex, or harder positions, maybe look for another alternative, as sports bra or so, because you’ll move much more. but of course this is just my opinion/experience. If you do feel dizzy/can’t breath during ANY type of sex, take it off! Safety first buddies, Hope this helps ♡♡ 

simplyonewinged said: I had sex with/in all of the above options since my degree of top dysphoria varies heavily. Most of them work just fine if you AND your partner are comfortable with it. I like blankets on my chest since it’s also how I sleep and calms me very much but often they just slip away within the first minutes or are to annoying so we put them away. I think the most important thing is communication. Our “safeword” is tapping two times on the thing that causes pain, whether it’s a misplaced arm or my binder. Also everyone should respect (and not be afraid to use) a clear no.